Nancy Rosen and Margaret Thomas presented the program,”Grace Under Pressure—Dealing With Difficult People” at the recent meeting of the Heart-N-Hands Extension Homemakers Club.
The meeting and potluck luncheon were held at the Centennial Fellowship Church at White Hall, according to a news release.
Rosen and Thomas discussed six types of difficult people: 1) floor hogs who like to be the center of attention; 2) constant commenters who have an answer for every question and a comment for every answer; 3) yellers who use their tone of voice to control a discussion or other situation; 4) nitpickers who always have a better idea, a way something could be done differently, or find a flaw in a plan and seem to enjoy pointing it out; 5) negative people who focus on the negative and shut down positivity. They remember every failed event or they think of every possible problem that could happen. 6) Controllers/competitors have to be right. There is always an excuse for negative behavior, and always a reason to blame others if something doesn’t go right.
Thomas discussed healthy strategies for dealing with difficult people: breath; take a moment before responding; avoid power struggles, especially with controlling or aggressive people; confront damaging behaviors one-on-one instead of in front of everyone else; meet negativity with positivity; set appropriate limits and boundaries; and look for specific solutions to the situation.
Rosen discussed types of self care to stay healthy: 1) deep breathing and mindfulness exercises, 2) physical exercise, 3) Journaling may offer an outlet for your thoughts. 4)
Avoid inflammatory situations when possible. 5) Instead of reacting each time, be proactive in dealing with recurring issues. 6) Ask for help if needed.
Brenda Robinson, club president, welcomed everyone to the meeting. For Show and Tell she brought a Mosaic cross that she had created.
Delores Kelley, community service chairwoman, encouraged everyone to bring food items for the Transformation Project.
Rosen, special community service project chairwoman, reported that she and Thomas took clothes and bingo prizes to Davis Life Care Center. After visiting with the activity director, it was decided that adopting a needy resident would be a good community service project for the 2018-2019 EHC year. A resident was selected.
Rosen, Walk Across Arkansas captain for Heart-N-Hands EHC, said that the session runs from Sept. 16 through Nov. 10 and she will register participants. Kaye Richardson, fundraiser chairwoman, announced that she has Sonic cards to sell. The club will have a silent auction in October.
Sandy Smith, education/fellowship tour chairwoman, recommended that the club eat at the Country Village at Star City. The club voted to eat there in October.
Robinson thanked the club members for participating in activities. She thanked Kaye Richardson for teaching a Savvy Scarf Workshop. Those participating were: Carolyn Harness, Robinson, Vivian Gerlach, Connie Herrin, Gerry Crutchfield, Lynda Toler, Sandy Smith, Kelley, Patsy Brown, Cathy Lewis, Debbie James, Jody Stout, Barbra Freeman, Dianna Winfree, and Kathryn Brown.
The following members attended a Painted Wine Glass Workshop (Jefferson County Extension Homemakers Council) at the Extension Office: Robinson, Harness, Kelley, Lewis, Joyce Johnson, Rosen, Gerlach, Liz Crosby, Toler, Stout, Patsy Brown, James, Audrey Armstrong, Margaret Thomas and Freeman.
Events that the club members can look forward to attending include fair check-in from 1-6 p.m. Sept. 30, fair judging starting at 9 a.m. Oct. 1, Jefferson County Extension Homemakers Fall Council at 10 a.m. Oct. 2 at the Extension Office and fair check-out from 1-4 p.m. Oct. 7.
Heart-N-Hands EHC was happy to have Joyce Cozzens, guest of member Sharon Wardlaw, attend the meeting, according to the news release.
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